Nobody accepts one sided coin.

Connectedness and self awareness will take you close to others – an habit of the mind.
Do not get surprised – you will do this when you think about all your planned actions which involves any other person or persons. First you have a stake in the planned action and you start with doing a sort of SWOT analysis. You integrate your all accessible knowledge, experience, ways to make a success out of planned efforts. The process of knowing yourself will not allow you not to think about those living around you. So, you do similar exercise about the people who are going to play role in the situation or situations that will emerge during the course of that event. This is a proactive way, a knowledge and no knowledge goes in vain.
Once a pathway is created, knowledge and thoughts are synthesized to deal with such matters, mind keeps on using the same method, more so, if you have experienced some positive and encouraging experience (feedback) a specific event.
Gradually, whenever possible, with a trace of connectedness you simply keep on thinking about others – their strengths, weaknesses, motives, ways, rightness or the wrongs, genuineness or lack of it – whatever parameters you come across. This way you feel that you are developing an understanding about others around you and that is gradually influencing your planned actions. So drive becomes a driver and utility of force becomes different than earlier.
The only risk in this way is that the database you generate should not become irrelevant.
This is but natural, living and aspired life you just cannot ignore the presence of people at the other end. After all life is nothing but a coexistence and shared things and experiences for co creations in the process. Like you, others also have their likes, dislikes, preferences and if your life comes across these feelings in the eventual interactions – you would certainly not like to be in for shocks from unexpected behaviour of those others. You get imaginative and start using your guesswork database of what others may have in their mind, create numerous scenarios. Basically you prefer not to be aggressive person so your thinking starts revolving around win win situation, then you will find that empathy is being developed – you are able to anticipate views, feelings and emotions of others. You get into their shoes and start looking at the scenario – modify it to make out a workable solution, you will create a time space for building options. When you come across each other you will position yourself open for multiple possibilities, then either
(a.) Decide way of handling the issues with others for mutual satisfaction, or
(b). If, for reasons, you are unable to accommodate others’ views; you will certainly try to find ways of least resistance for a win win situation.
Gradually you will sense that unknowingly balance and comfort level in your life is increasing. Whatever may be the problems in your life, you are willing to face them, feel happy for your honest efforts and feel motivated for shared happiness.
Where are the struggles in the life?

Create Moments

Moments - not hours, days or years -make a life.
So let's create Moments.
This is all about our life – this knowledge will add wings to our powers to go beyond what we know….
Moments, like drops of water, come together to form our life stream.
Usually we can not select or reject Moments in our life by our likes or dislikes.
Incoming moments can not be filtered for desired values. They are just given to us by the life, that is why such moments are called a ‘Present’.
Like a raindrops up from the sky, the moments are generated by a complex natural phenomenon.
Let’s create a matrix.
Let M0 be the preceding past moment
Let M1 be the present and
Let M2 be a following moment – the future.
M0 - the Past moment capsules seeds and direction of the following moment in which the force was generated while living that moment.
M1 - Unless the substance and the direction the present moment carries, is in agreement with M0, we end up with confusion – like arrows flying in difference directions.
M2 - The cross currents from M0 + M1 , if not neutralized, gets transferred to the following moment having its own complex directions.
The Rain drops are part of the Universal flow but the moments we receive are seamlessly connected to our mind and life.
Evolved and meant alone for us.
Part of M0 comes filled with the obligations -Sanchit karma – accumulated consequences generating obligation in M1 for actions, our unfulfilled wishes, desires and dreams.
Some obligations inherited from M0 are to be performed along with real time M1 obligations , others are further carried forward.
M1 will also have obligations for M2.
Balance of M1 will hold smouldering consequences out of M0 and M1.
Just like this diverse life substance is impregnated into moments that consume us.
A water stream is made up of numerous drops of water coming from various sources, with different purity, impurity, colors and shades, minerals, sediments, taste, smells, cold and warmth.
The moments contain nano particles of numerous different substances, different directions, force and a lengthy agenda representing many unfilled or half filled desires and needs.
If each moment joins with dissimilar, useful, useless, harmful, harmless, substances and forces moving in from different sources, how will our life form be?

Surely, for every moment we consume, we will live just a fraction of it. Such stream needs purification if we want life somewhere near to the fullness.
How this stream can be purified?

We should be sensitive enough to understand past and present substances minutely with their positives and negatives and our short term and long term agendas.
It’s a race between whatever best knowledge we have and the time which flies away with its own speed.
It always enticing to look at colorful lives around, but it is not simple to ingrain our own.
We cannot change our past, we cannot change the way people live and interact, we cannot change the circumstances which emerge around us, the only thing we can do is to change our ways we know ourselves.
We cannot change the direction of the wind, we cannot change its force, only thing we can do is to adjust our Sails focused on direction and destination.
Knowing the self within will be the most cost effective discovery of the 21st Century.
In the rush of life and multiplicity of needs - their satisfaction or lack of it – we are rarely aware what drives our actions – intelligence, emotions or obsessions? Why things go right many a times?

We are unable to anticipate the nature of consequences – positive or negative - our thoughts and actions may generate.

Uncertainties in the life appear as a constant factor and we stray away from the realities that make our life as we live it.
We are not trying to be experts in all these fields – but as the wise have said we are trying to develop an 'educated acquaintance' with branches of knowledge which concern each of us.
Today more such knowledge is evolving – be with it.
Know the Self within and know the true potentials – to create moment, to create happiness.
Dreams do come true – by being clever than the dreams.
Know it.
The Learning Mind -Know the self within

“ it is a search for better ways to interact with the self for enlightenment to achieve seemingly difficult things in life. I am sharing the studies to re form whatever knowledge rests within our minds, to empower the struggle for our dreams with infinite within the finite.

It is always better to be enlightened to be clever than the dreams.”
Come on, start thinking,
let’s create moments we desire and make our lives beautiful and happy.
Will You?

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This is text of slideshow 'Create Moments'. This show is translated into Spanish and Marathi.

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